We are one month away from Valentine’s Day! For some people, it’s a joyous time with the people they love, for some others it may be that time where they awkwardly wait for their “friend,” to say they want to be more than friends.
This is also the same time of year where churches decide to be cliché and talk about dating… Surprise! That’s what we will be talking about over the next three weeks at Alive Student Ministry.
Before you get scared (students and parents) and start to feel uncomfortable let me explain a little bit about this series and why we are doing it. I will also answer some of your most asked FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions).
What is going to be discussed during this series?
This three-week series is so much more than the stereotypical don’t have sex before marriage series. We will be breaking down our relationships as a whole and how we can honor others and God in those relationships. We will discuss issues such as dating, purity, and respect. To know exactly what will be discussed each week, here is a break down so you can prepare yourself and your student.
- January 28: Dating (Ephesians 5:3-17). “We are called to date differently from the world.”
- February 11: Sex (1 Corinthians 6:9-20). “Sex is a gift and should be celebrated within the guidelines of God’s commands.”
- February 18: Purity and Respect (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, Titus 2:3-14). “Respect and purity come from a higher standard of living that comes from a relationship with Christ.”
Is this something my 12 year old should hear?
I am going to speak directly to our sixth-grade parents for a second. Here is the short answer. Yes!
Our students are hearing and seeing bad examples of relationships every single day, no matter how much we may protect them. If they are hearing the bad examples, it is vitally important that they hear the right ways from their student paster, their small group leader, and their parents. The most important piece is the parent. Hearing these things from us will set them up to be successful in relationships as they grow up.
What if I am not the best example of a biblical relationship?
Here is the good news for you. None of us are perfect. We all have shortcomings and that is why we need Jesus! The best thing we can do for our students is be honest with them. When a parent models a life of repentance and acceptance that only Jesus can fix us, it will only propel them into growing in a relationship with Jesus Christ.
What if I’m not comfortable with my student coming?
As a pastor, I have had parents say this to me in the past. My answer is always this; bring your student to as many weeks as possible. If there is one week that you aren’t comfortable with, we understand and respect that decision. Our goal in student ministry is to lead students into a growing relationship with Jesus Christ. To do that, we have to talk about every way that we do that.
We hope that your students will be with us over the next three weeks. My one challenge to you is don’t let the conversation end at the church. Continue talking about this at home even after the three weeks are over.
If you have any questions, please feel free to contact us:
Middle School Pastor: firstname.lastname@example.org
High School Pastor: email@example.com